The need to grief

After you’ve lost someone important to you, you do fall off the edge of the world for a while. You loose sight of who you are. But you kind of need to do that. You need to go to another place because you need to slowly rebuild yourself. And become someone new. You need to become someone who can incorporate the grief that you feel within yourself and hold it there. I get very angry at people sort of say you need to get over grief. You should never get over grief. You need to become the person who can hold on to it and bear it. 

Helen Macdonald